How to Be Valued and Value Others - Our Greatest Need is to be Valued Seen & Heard
Our #1 Recommended Starter Course...a must See & Do!
This is a foundational Starter Course I recommend for everyone.
Who is this Course for: Singles or Couples or Anyone Who needs to learn how to Value themselves first, and then others. This course walks you through the root of why you lack in healthy Valuing, and equips you in the HOW with a fun exercise to do with dates, mates, family members and friends. Everyone will feel massively Valued.
Take as a personal course or one you can do in a group and learn from each other, includes HeartWorkSheets with powerful, life-transforming questions.
Everyone has the need and desire to be Valued, Seen & Heard.
The problem: Most of us don't know how to give these wonderful things to ourselves first, and then require others, using healthy boundaries, to Value us too.
There is a beautiful way to do this, and we can show you how..
This course has the power to transform your Authentic Confidence quickly! And transform any current relationships - because when we feel Valued and are able to Values others, people feel loved and miracles grow out of that.
You will know your own Valuable Verbs. We include an exercise which is not only non-threatening to those who are leery of coaching, but also fun! Students take this Discover Your Valuable Verbs exercise out on their dates with them...here are some typical responses they receive:
I am really impressed with you.
This is really sexy that you took coaching and are doing this with me.
You are irresistible.
The reason dates respond so well to this exercise is because:
They have been out there, in the trenches. A date who would pull this out and do this with them tells them that their date is different than all the rest. They are serious about their growth. They have attended to their baggage and this gives them hope that this date is offering something better than the pool of daters out there.
You see, we are all unique and something that makes me feel Valuable, may not make you feel Valuable. You can learn to love each other better, and ask others to love you in the way you need.
This course will impact your life and the lives of those you love, dramatically - including your kids! They will love learning their Valuable Verbs too - because it is fun to feel Valued!
If you are an OverGiver, this course is your first step in empowerment. The reason this course is an absolute must for you, is because you give and give, and are not receiving back. This course teaches you how and in a beautiful, fun way.
If you are a little too much of a know it all, overly-confident - this course will teach you how to Value others in the way they need to be valued, rather than you assuming you know how they should feel valued.
Back to our Overgivers:
1. A typical OverGiver trap is to not recognize that YOU MATTER TOO!
2. Are you known as a giving/kind/loving person? (People describe you this way.)
3. Do you feel you are doing God's will by being loving and willing to give however you can?
4. And yet, you find yourself wondering why others don't give back to you? When will you be cared for? 5. Do you feel taken advantage of by friends, family, dates, or your mate/ex-mate? Thus...
4. Do you secretly harbor resentment?
5. Do you love those you care for, but you are getting worn out?
6. Do you feel worthy or brave enough to ask for what you need or desire?
7. Are you the one to always give in or compromise?
8. Do you feel the harmony of relationship rests on you?
9. Do you have to make sure everyone feels happy and cared for?...
10. Otherwise it may fall apart or not work out well?
Overgiving is a trap
It keeps you disempowered.
It enables and codepends poor behavior from others.
It leaves you exhausted.
You are not honoring who you are as a child of God, and you disregard the point that YOU matter.
It ruins and destroys passion, harmony and joy in relationships.
You invite others to take advantage of you.
And it's unattractive - your dates or mates will lose interest in you because overgiving lacks Authenticity, a key component in sexiness and attraction.
OverGiving is the one of the top culprits in dismantled relationships and frustrations in dating.
OverGiving is tricky for many believers because it is a term not used in the Bible. But I have unearthed Jesus teachings and how to transform your overgiving into:
-discover your Unique Voice, Your Authenticity - you can and will learn how to ask for what you need with Divine confidence
As you make these transitions, you change your life, dating, and relationships dramatically. You will receive care and love in return, because when you care for You, others do too! The OverGiving disease does take major HeartWork.
If you are ready to dismantle OverGiving altogether, and become a fully empowered Woman or Man, if Single, I highly suggest taking our Intense Online Course: Unleash Your SuperHero, or if you are in relationship, the Couples course.
Contact us for any questions you may have.
Every is welcome no matter your faith, gender, or lifestyle. None of our courses are meant to convert, but to only teach you HOW to LOVE yourself and others better. Love Your Neighbor as Yourself is the Golden Rule here too.
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What is your HOW?
- HOW do I love myself first and others with unconditional Love?
- HOW do I date to attract my ideal mate?
- HOW do I sustain a passionate relationship?
- HOW do I value, see and hear others?
- HOW do I value, see and hear myself?
- HOW do I forgive those who have hurt me?
- HOW do I stop the automatic negative talk in my head?
- HOW do I communicate my needs kindly, honestly, and directly?
- HOW do I create understanding rather than defensiveness?
- HOW do I shift my mindset?
- HOW do I stop overgiving/enable or making myself small?
- HOW do I heal childhood trauma?
- HOW do I manage my PTSD?
- HOW do I stop being taken advantage of?
- HOW do I stop being so needy and desperate?
- HOW do I handle the longing to be loved?
- HOW do I learn healthy compromise?
- HOW do I shake the self-doubt?
- HOW do I become confident in dating and intimate relationship when I have failed so many times?
- HOW do I begin to shift my life and love life?
- HOW do I know my purpose?
- HOW do I use my gifts to coach/help others?
The Tenets of our Mission that we offer to self and others:
- Unconditional Love
- Kindness / Compassion / Non-Judgement
If you have been hurt/disappointed/angered by religion or religious dogmatists as I have been, I, Kim O, the creator of this school and the courses within, invite you to believe that you are safe and can experience with me the real intended purpose of religion: LOVE. Humans throughout history have messed up this message. I hope to enlighten you to find LOVE again and not be afraid to be reacquainted with these higher teachings of unconditional love, unconditional acceptance, and unconditional forgiveness - they set us free in life. Love Your Neighbor as Yourself is the Golden Rule indeed.
Everyone is welcome - whatever faith, lifestyle, gender or sexual orientation you are, you are beautiful and loved. Everyone will receive transforming wisdom that they can utilize in their lives and relationships.
I embrace many different terms to describe the Divine. Feel free to insert what feels most loving to you.
Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:8
My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness. Dali Lama
If you do not change direction, you may end up going where you are headed. Lao Tzu
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. Dali Lama
Do not judge...Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your neighbors eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own. Jesus, Matthew 7:1,3
Love one another. Jesus. John 13:35
Love your enemies. Jesus, Matthew 5:43
Pain is unavoidable but suffering is optional. Jack Kornfield (Buddhism for Beginners)
Hi I am Kim Oak. I am a recovered OverGiver, a recovered Hopeless Romantic, a recovered Xanax Addict, a recovered Self-Doubter/Loather, a recovered disempowered Dater and Relationshipper, a recovered Religious Dogmatist….to one powerful, awesome, embracing her Purpose, Authentic Self, Soul,Partner, Author, Coach and Founder of HeartWorkUniversity.com.
We would be honored to love and serve you.
Kim O and the HWU team
Kim O trained at the University of Minnesota in Psychology and The Southwest Institute of Healing Arts in Phoenix for Life Coach Training and Advanced Life Coach Certification. She is the author of Heartbreak to Wholeness and How to Sow.
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